Traveling solo is an art. It cannot be taught. It just comes to you. Like all things art it involves letting go of the fear of being wrong and willingly allowing yourself to be lost.
A lot of people shy away from the thought of going away to a new place all by themselves. My best response to them to date as been ” If you cannot put up with yourself how can you expect others to do so?”
Jokes apart, here a few reasons why you should take a solo trip at least once in your lifetime.
In no particular order:
#1. Discover yourself again :- Change happens all around us. It happens from within and without. You change. Every now and then you need to meet the all new You.
#2. Discover your strengths:- I have always had trust issues or so I thought. But guess what, I was wrong. I packed a bag and hopped on a plane trusting someone I had never met and who had no reason to be nice to me.
#3. Make new friends:- Every other person is a potential friend when you are alone.
#4. Increased awareness:- When you are alone you are more aware of everything around you. You learn to take care of yourself.
#5. Do everything you want :- Although a bit selfish, a plus point of traveling solo is that you do not have to think twice about anything. Want to sleep in? Sure. Want to trek up the hill? Why not! You are the captain of your desires.
#5. No one sees it! :- This is my favorite one. I am always getting into trouble and hence the best part of solo travel for me is the satisfaction of knowing that there is no one around to keep track of my messes and narrate them to my friends and family once I get back. You have no idea just how important this is.
Companionship is great. No argument there. But once in a while travel with yourself.
In a previous post I mentioned that Hyderabad was a city abounding in ‘Heritage richness’. The series titled Hyderabad Heritage is dedicated to showcasing the Heritage buildings in and around Hyderabad that we otherwise pass by without a second glance.
This post is mainly focussed on heritage buildings that are neglected, encroached or simply not considered worth preserving( when they really should be).
I had just got my licence. But then that did not really mean that I could drive, let alone maintain my car.
The things I could do was brake ( oh yeah!) and indicate that I was turning ( even if I was moving slightly to the right on a straight road). The things I could not do involved changing lanes on the freeway ( without someone in the car looking back and telling me “Now, Now, Now!”, reverse and parallel park. Reverse and parallel park were part of the ten year plan ( still is!).
I was still figuring out how to drive without being honked at all the time when I had to move from Atlanta to Scottsdale for an internship. Needless to say the drive from the airport to my apartment took twice as long ( read distance and time) and vexed every single commuter who had the good/misfortune of sharing the deviation riddled freeway with me.
I soon got better at changing lanes; every time I did only a couple of cars honked and not the entire ‘freeway’! Some of them honked even when I was not in the process of changing lanes. During my second week I realized that it was because slower moving traffic normally kept to the right side of the freeway. “Freeway etiquette” said an article on the internet. But that was not very easy to comply with for every time I kept to the right I landed up taking an exit I did not intend to.
One night I had just turned into the street a few miles short of where I lived when I was pulled over. Dutifully following procedure as I was taught in the driving school, I rolled down my window and kept both my hands on the steering wheel. A middle-aged officer walked over and stood beside my car unsmiling.
“Do you know why you are pulled over?”
“No Sir. But I know I was not speeding.”
” Oh no. That you were not. Unfortunately I cannot do anything about you going too slow. Switch on your engine please.”
” Can I take my hands off the wheel?” – I did not want him pulling out a gun on me!
Struggling to curb a smile he answered ” Is there any other way you can switch on your engine?”
” Then please take your hands off the wheel”.
I switched on my engine and my dashboard lit up.
” You see that blue icon? You know what that is?”
“I know lights, but what light?” Exasperated.
“My car lights….?” — Where the hell is this guy from?
The officer did not know whether to laugh or not. He looked at me a whole minute and then decided I was innocent, probably retarded!
“They are bright lights. You do not use high beam in the city. Do you understand?”
If only he knew the effort it took me to find out how to switch on the lights!
There were other blinking lights on my dashboard. He pointed to the another one ( which I later learnt indicated low tire pressure) and asked
” Do you know what that means?”
” Oil Change…?”